Below are some ideas to get you started in planning for your safety. However, every situation is different. Only you can decide what's best for you.
Being ready for a crisis
You may be living with, dating, or have a child with the abuser. If it is safe for you, you might think about:
Moving to a safer space during an argument
Try to avoid arguments in the bathroom, garage, kitchen, near weapons, or in rooms without an exit to the outside.
Leaving the house for a short time
Think about how you would get out safely and where you would go. Have your purse and car keys ready.
Asking a neighbor or a friend for help
A neighbor can call police if they hear violent noises coming from your home. A friend can take necessary action if you use a code word that you have arranged in advance.
Calling for help
Think about who you could call: police, domestic violence hotline, friends, and family. Know those numbers or program them into your phone, if you can do so safely. Your local domestic violence program may be able to give you a free cell phone for calling 911.
Planning to leave or separate from your partner
You may decide that leaving your partner is the best choice for your safety at this time. Leaving can be a temporary or permanent option.
Where you could stay and for how long?
Choices could include homes of friends or family, a hotel, or a domestic violence shelter, have phone numbers ready.
How you can get to a safe place?
You may be able to use your car, public transportation, or arrange for a ride.
Things you might need to take with you:
- credit cards and/or checkbook (make sure you know your passwords and account numbers)
- Identification and documentation for you and your children (this could be driver's license, birth certificates, social security cards, passports
- immigration papers
- public assistance ID\
- keys to your house, car, office
- safe deposit box
- health insurance cards
- hearing aids and other medical needs
- important papers such as orders of protection, divorce or separation agreement, custody/visitation order, and child support order
- car registration
- insurance papers
- lease or house deed
- electronic equipment such as laptops and cell phones.